Mothers, especially widows and single moms, have to walk a fine line when it comes to dealing with their sons. Otherwise, they will constantly butt heads.
The reason is because man was created to be the head of woman.
“But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.” 1 Corinthians 11:3
Interestingly, in a relationship between mother and son where the father is deceased or never present, the elder son is the one who, in a spiritually and biblically authoritative sense, replaces the father. See Of Authority and Christians.
In said situations mothers usually end up being quite smothering and controlling. Even Jesus, in the only two intimate interactions with his biological mother that are biblically recorded, found Himself butting heads with her.
“His mother said to Him, ‘Son, why have You treated us this way? Behold, Your father and I have been anxiously looking for You.’ And He said to them, ‘Why is it that you were looking for Me? Did you not know that I had to be in My Father’s house?’ ” Luke 2:48-49
“On the third day a wedding took place at Cana in Galilee. Jesus’ mother was there, and Jesus and his disciples had also been invited to the wedding. When the wine was gone, Jesus’ mother said to him, “They have no more wine.” “Woman, why do you involve me?” Jesus replied. “My hour has not yet come.” John 2:1-4
It’s quite telling when the God of the Universe, while a man, had to pry his authority from his human, biological mother. See Is Mary the Mother of God?
Mothers must allow their sons to spread their wings and not be overbearing. However, this in no way reneges a mother’s protective instinct and maternal duty, nor does it revoke the honor and respect a son must show his mother.
Consequently, mothers and their sons have to walk a fine line, using wisdom from above, to avoid butting heads.
“The wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.” James 3: 17